Are there times in which you feel that you’re struggling badly with some things and then…wham! Suddenly and magically, things begin to fall into place?

I have had some very challenging times these past few weeks, but somehow as I began shifting my focus from what appeared to be obvious – and I consciously chose the words “appeared to be  obvious”- I was able to diffuse many difficult situations.

In fact, acutely charged problems simply began to unravel. I received inner promptings for solutions which I otherwise would not have thought of.

It is a wonderful feeling to recognize the validation of the old adage that your own happiness and peace of mind solely lie in your own hands.

When oppositions or adversities oppose us, we tend to focus too much on the problem and get emotionally clog up by who is to blame. Unfortunately, this attitude only eats away at us, and immobilizes us.

But if we can emotionally distant ourself from the problem and focus more on looking for solutions, then we are able to free up dynamic energy to turn things around.

This is what I have experienced. I can assure you, it is much more engaging and invigorating focusing all your inner “radar” on what needs to become than on what went wrong!

Suddenly your heart feels lighter, you take concise action, you move with certain confidence, you have a certain air of determination about you. All these changes happen because you are driven from within.The energy around you is just electrifying! This were actually what people have been saying to me these past weeks.Truly amazing!

Which proves that if you don’t allow problems to stop you or eat away at you, you’ll  be directed to find the right angle to things, even in the worst case scenario. For things are really never what they mostly appear to be.

Right now, my maxim is: “never judge any dark moment by its appearance, for you can neither feel how soothing wading in iced cold water can be until you’ve experienced it”. It is a question of perspectivity.

These past few weeks, I have been observing how what I say have great impact in my life and in the lives of other people.

There is nothing new about the knowledge of the power of our words. But sometimes I believe we  either forget about their effects or we simply become slothful in our ways. Still, this is not to say that we can be excused. Because the unchanging eternal laws woven into Creation do not wait for us to become vigilant before reciprocating to what we put out there in the form of our words or deeds for that matter.

Yesterday, a colleague asked for my opinion about her health issues, which she has unsuccessfully  been dealing with. Immediately, I was tempted to shed some light on what I perceived to be the source of her problem. But then, something held me back, and I listened within.

It became very clear to me that what she now required, was not what I had to say about the source of her health issues, but rather encouragements on how well she was managing with the situation. So I changed my focus and listened with my heart. As she continued to speak, I observed her feelings and then asked her what exactly she wanted from me. The answer came like a rocket!

She said she needed my moral support and my words of wisdom which she felt had always given her the strength to deal with difficult issues in the past! Amazing what simple listening can bring to the fore. 

Once again, I was reminded of the importance of truly tuning into other people’s feelings to really perceive how best to serve them at a given time.

My change of focus saved me from making a grievous mistake and undoubtedly disappointing or worst still hurting a dear colleague. Had I gone ahead and said what was in my mind, I would have missed the opportunity of knowing what is really of benefit to her.

Sometimes it is best to hold back a thought before deciding to put it into words. For once your words are pronounced, they are out of your control and a constellation of vibration is set into motion.