Embracing Changes holistically...together! Turning a change into invigorating challenge for deeper fulfilment   MONTHLY NEWSLETTER November 2003 This newsletter has been sent to you either because you subscribe for it, or someone who knows you sent it to you. If you know of anyone who could benefit from it, why not send it on to them or ask them to subscribe at www.embracingchanges.com -----------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------   This newsletter is intended to give an echo of what I sincerely believe could help you overcome your struggle with changes. And turn whatever changes you are presently experiencing into an invigorating challenge. I hope that together, we can learn to stop resisting changes and learn to embrace them with a holistical attitude which can enhance our growth and happiness. ------------------------------------------------------------------------ ------------------------------------------------------------------------ Simply Letting Go! One crucial aspect of going through changes is our feelings.  We all know only too well how difficult it is to let go of disturbing feelings. In mostly dealing with emotions we either suppress or express them. But since the latter usually shows us in not too favourable a light, we end up suppressing our feelings.     Are you aware of what happens inside your body when you are uptight about a problem, or when you worry yourself sick because things are not working out according to plan and you decide to suppress this or hang on to it? As a result of the block erected through inner tension,  the energy flow to your inner organs are reduced, invariably diminishing the normal functioning of the organs. Your vital statistics such as the heart and pulse rates, the breathing and the metabolism start  running chaotic. When we harbour emotions such as anger, fear or resentment, we are simply harming ourselves.   This is one reason among others, why some chronic  worriers suffer from stomach ulcers while again, others lose weight uncontrollably.  Your other option is to learn to let go of disturbing feelings instead of suppressing them. The more adept you become at this, the freer and happier you will be. You will also have more energy readily for that which is really important to you.       REFLECTION Take me for example. As founder and president of a new non-profit organisation, I spent a good deal of this year preparing for a whole day congress planned for mid November. Having organised various speakers in and out of the country, printing and mailing out invitations to over 500 people and reserving the hall for the event, I was ready.   For some lame excuse however, the Board of Directors decided early last week to cancel the event!! You can very well imagine my frustration and disappointment to say the least! Especially as I strongly believe that this congress would be bringing out the heart of our intent to the public. Nonetheless, you may now ask how am I dealing with this coup? To put it bluntly, initially I was furious and  resisted the decison. But after a while, I realised that this wasn't just a great opportunity, but a blessing! I believe that from out there somewhere, I was being given a chance to rectify some bad decisions I had previously made about some board members. Suffice to say that, I wouldn't have attained this recognition should the event be taking place later on this month.  This recognition made me realise that more damage than good would have resulted from the planned event. So you see, by welcoming and embracing what initially had appeared catastrophical, I let go of my initial feelings and accepted the change. This then opened me for deeper insight, and now I can re-channel my energy consciously and purposefully. Admittedly, it requires inner alertness not to succumb to deep brooding when you are hurting. But more importantly, it shows that troubling emotions can be released. Here are a few points to reflect on: To start with, most emotions are subject to the law of "cause and effect". Meaning, eliminate the cause, and you change the effect it has on you. This is because feelings are feelings.You HAVE feelings, just as you have a cold or a tooth ache, but you ARE NOT your feelings! YOU are stronger and bigger than them. What may seemingly look dramatical at first, can turn out to be a blessing upon taking a second look. By letting go of difficult situation, you are tapping into your inner core which cannot fail to reward you with appropriate answers. We are all humans and therefore our feelings will always be a challenge for us. But the greatest challenge I believe is, how to let go of disturbing feelings and attain unshakeable security and unperturbability.        TAKE ACTION Since feelings have a way of creeping back on you, try not to suppress them. Instead examine whatever it is you are feeling and embrace it fully. Ask yourself if you could let go of the feelings right now, and if not, recognise what is holding you back. Asking yourself .... would you rather  experience peace of mind or be riddled with conflict can trigger your natural instinct to let go. Take a deep breath and say 'thank you' for your life and for the ability to choose.This is a great gift and a blessing which we often forget to appreciate and dignify accordingly. Don't brood or beat yourself down. Be patient with yourself and talk to someone else about what you're feeling if it would help.   Inspirational quote: From The Miracle of the Butterfly "Letting go and forgiveness are one and the same. Their function is to let emotional attachment and investment in the past dissolve" Keep your inner activity burning bright and alive! ------------------------------------------------------------------------ ------------------------------------------------------------------------ Are you currently struggling with some changes, and finding that you are not dealing as effectively with them as you would like to? Do consider coaching. I'm confident that through our working together you'll achieve the results you want sooner than later. Call me or send me an email! Please check out my website for more information. Until next month.   'Kunbi Korostensky ND Personal Life and Transition Coach Tel:+41 56 631 98 60 / Mobile: +41 79 447 67 24          E-mail: ok@embracingchanges.com           www.embracingchanges.com