Welcome to Embracing Changes holistically...together! Turning a change into invigorating challenge for deeper fulfilment   MONTHLY NEWSLETTER  January 2004 This newsletter has been sent to you either because you subscribe for it, or someone who knows you sent it to you. If you know of anyone who could benefit from it, why not send it on to them or ask them to subscribe at www.embracingchanges.com ----------------------------------------------------------------------    This newsletter is intended to give an echo of what I sincerely believe could help you overcome your struggle with changes. And turn whatever changes you are presently experiencing into an invigorating challenge. I hope that together, we can learn to stop resisting changes and learn to embrace them with a holistical attitude which can enhance our growth and happiness. ----------------------------------------------------------------- -----------------------------------------------------------------   ADVISE YOURSELF It IS possible to make successful changes in your life ...you just need  to find the right way to motivate yourself to do it. Are YO U truly for YOU? Whoever you are...and whatever you do, unless you have that "tiny doubting voice" inside your head under YOUR control - you will never succeed. Unless YOU are truly for YOU... then you will be struggling before you even start! So... - STOP blaming yourself for what you have or haven't done   to get to where you are now. - STOP putting your talents down. You have more abilities   and skills than you realise. - STOP thinking about why you can't do something...and   instead focus on why you CAN! - STOP blaming other people. YOU are totally responsible   for the outcome of YOUR life...nobody else. - STOP comparing yourself to other people. Whatever measure   you use...you will always find a way to tell yourself  that you are   'second-  best' compared to them! - STOP wishing it was different...and start ACTING as if it   was! - STOP focusing on your 'weaknesses'...and instead look at   how you can leverage your strengths. - STOP looking at things going wrong as failure. The only   time you fail at something is if you repeat the same   mistake after not having learned the lesson from it the   first time! - STOP telling yourself that other people are 'lucky'. Luck   is simply something that is a natural by-product of a positive   attitude followed by action! So...think about how YOU, and not your external circumstances, might be holding you back. What little ways can you begin to start making sure that YOU are truly for YOU? So...What will you tell yourself to STOP doing from now on?   REFLECTION  Can I Ask...WHO Are You? How do you define yourself? Are you really in tune with who you really are? This may seem a strange question to ask but...WHO are you? The first thing that you are NOT is your profession. So...you are NOT "an accountant", "a homemaker", or "a car mechanic". Neither are you your level in that occupation. So...you are NOT "a manager", "a supervisor"," an executive" or "a clerk" Let me ask you again - WHO are you, really? You are NOT what you earn. So...you are not "poor", "a millionaire", or "a fantastic  monthly earner" If you strip away these things from the answer that you normally give to the question - "Who are you?"...are you left with much? I doubt it. I define who I am by what I innately perceive, my values, my convictions and by what I passionately resonate with ...rather than WHAT I do for a living. So...I am a spiritually aware person who loves learning, an inspirational teacher, a catalyst , a lover of people, an insightful caregiver, and a life changer, ...a dedicated person, who above all, follows her intuitive guidance! What about YOU? There is more to you than what you do. You have passions, visions, values and dreams. Look inside...   Can I Ask  you again... WHO Are You? How do you define yourself?   TAKE ACTION In the above entry...I talked about how YOU alone are in control of your destiny...and I called your attention to what hinder your motivation. Now...let's look at what  you can START doing to motivate you! - START thinking about what you REALLY want out of   your life. No...not what you THINK that you really want  but ...what your 'life mission' is. - START knowing exactly WHO the people are that are   currently in your life that you WANT to 'take with you'   towards your ideal future. - START formulating in one sentence what you WANT   from your life...without using the words -money, fame,   millionaire, or influence. - START observing the people who are where you want to   be...and think about how you can LEARN from their   experience. - START accomplishing something (no matter how small)   every day that, in some way, moves you towards your ideal   future. - START looking at how you can leverage your efforts so   that you are not getting paid purely in return for the   amount of hours that you work. Not always easy to do...   but it IS possible! -  START focusing on the quality of your thoughts. If you   become what you think...then ANY negative thought won't   help you in the slightest. A suggestion: the easiest way to start  doing this is to wear an elastic band on your wrist and 'ping'   it every time that you have a negative thought. - START looking at how your HABITS are reflecting in who   you are. Just 5 or 10 times a day spent on something more   constructive than mindlessly watching TV is an excellent   START! I could ceaselessly continue...but I'm sure that YOU probably have better ideas about what you could START doing than me. Everyone KNOWS what they OUGHT to be doing and aren't...so, what about YOU, why aren't you doing what you should be doing?   Changes offer the best opportunity to re-assess your options. INSPIRATIONAL QUOTE If you don't consciously select where you want to go, you go where your unconscious wants you to go and you will call it fate.                                                                                    - Joe Vitale Keep your inner activity burning bright and alive! ----------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Are you currently struggling with some changes, and finding that you are not dealing as effectively with them as you would like to? Do consider coaching. I'm confident that through our working together you'll achieve the results you want sooner than later. Call me or send me an email! Please check out my website for more information. Until next month Wishing you peace, love, joy and abundant life in  2004.     'Kunbi Korostensky ND Personal Life and Transition Coach Tel:+41 56 631 98 60 / Mobile: +41 79 447 67 24          E-mail: ok@embracingchanges.com           www.embracingchanges.com