Release Your Pain through Love

Admittedly, it is big challenge to overcome the swamp of inner pain and feelings of desperation after the loss of a loved one. Trying to console a person in bereavement with such words as "time will heal your wounds", often render most bereaved person feeling even more dejected than ever.

I have used another approach to help many a bereaved reduce their pain and to gradually move on more easily.

The Ritual Act of Love TM

First of all, know this.You have a right to feel your pain and to mourn your loss. Feeling pain and joy is part of being who you are: a human person, vulnerable to feelings and emotions. Let no one dictate to you how long you have to mourn. This is an individual thing. Because the period of mourning differs from person to person. There is no point putting any pressure on yourself and feeling guilty, even if your own period of mourning seems to last a little longer than that of most people you know.

I have been  facilitating and supporting people in bereavement for many years. some heal relatively fast, while others require a much longer period for their healing process.

One factor which stands out as a key to releasing the painful loss and healing  your inner wound is the Ritual Act of Love TM.  This is a simple method developed by me to help bereaved person overcome their pain.

The Power of Love

The power of love when used in the right manner can provide you with a remarkable tool for closing your inner wound and finding new strength for moving on. Here is something you can do. It is a shorter version of the whole Ritual Act of Love TM.

Whenever you feel dejected or alone, stop whatever you are doing. Sit quietly, and fully feel the love you feel for the deceased loved one and allow the love to flow out and around you, surrounding you and the loved one. Then say anything you feel like saying to the deceased loved one. For example, you may want to say: "I miss speaking and sharing my thoughts with you". Just say it . Then continue to express your feelings without holding back and let the love you feel envelope both of you. When you are done, gently close your eyes and breathe deeply in and out while continuing to allow the love to flow between you and your missed loved one. This is an exchange of  the constant everlasting love. After a while gently open your eyes and sing whatever song comes to mind while you resume your normal chores.

I wish you love and great strength for your own deep inner healing. 

Call me or email me at kunbi@embracingchanges.com  if you would like to be coached on my full 3 stages of Ritual Act of Love TM

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